M is mourning her divorce from a ten-year marriage. Telling apart the “normal” mourning and grieving process from depression (that M also suffers from) can be confusing. Hang in there, M.
Guy Getting Divorced is in the middle of divorcing his wife of 8 years. They have been together for 11 years and have a 5 year old child. GGD said, “To be frank, this a painful, ugly, and distrustful process.” I’m really glad that GGD is sharing his story. Most of the time I’m exposed to divorce from the woman’s point of view, and can take for granted that the man will just “deal with it.” However, it’s clear that divorce is often painful for both parties. GGD has decided to change the way he’s approaching his divorce and see it from an empowering view to turn his life around. GGD will, “create this life by respecting my beliefs, appreciating my needs, and valuing relationships with other people.” That’s the spirit, GGD.
Jon Swift‘s post, Alec Baldwin’s Daughter Is a Disgrace, caught me off guard. This is probably one of the casualities of a very public divorce. I admit, I didn’t know much about what really happened around Baldwin’s latest public outburst, but most of the media coverage centered on Baldwin’s apology and his temper. Swift may know something about the daughter’s conduct that I didn’t. I know this: I’m glad I’m not Alec Baldwin (or his daughter, or Kim Basinger for that matter)!
Azmi’s 10 Things You Should Know About Guys made me chuckle, because some are stereotypically true, but some are really just stereotypes. Given that Azmi possesses a Y chromosome and I don’t, he’s an authority over these matters more than I am. However, using my hubby as a sample, here’s my take on the “guy” list:
1. love sports – my husband does enjoy “extreme” sports like sports motorbikes, used to race bicycles in college, rapelles, and goes out to camp in the the desert.
2. love money – he does like to spend money on me, but it’s because I earn my own keep, am a voracious saver, and hardly asks him for anything (I figured, if I really wanted something I could buy it myself).
3. being assholes – he’s pretty well balanced that way; sometimes when stress gets to me, I am the jerk.
4. desire for lust – I do point out to him what I’m ogling at when we’re at the gym and see an attractive anatomy, so he and I could discuss the merits of my observation.
5. cars – yep, this is true, and I just don’t get it.
6. hygiene – my husband is very much into hygiene. Often he smells much better than I do…
7. guy friends – yep, this is true, and it gives me some alone time too.
8. something dorky – isn’t this what we call hobbies? I find it endearing sometimes, how much he is engrossed in his hobbies.
9. electronics – sometimes. He’s not a gadget freak by any means.
10. working out – yep, definitely true. It’s part of an important routine for him and makes him feel good (and look great).
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